Our Wedding Date + Other Decisions

I haven’t given you a proper update on our wedding here on The Docket! You might have seen snippets on Instagram stories so I thought I might as well sit down and write out a post. But let me let you in on a little secret first: I low key hate wedding planning. It has just been WAY less fun than I thought it was going to be. On of the best parts was finally deciding on our date!

Yes we have a date! Okay, okay, we’ve had a date for a while now but it is still super exciting: November 26, 2022! It the Saturday of Thanksgiving – which works out perfectly because I don’t have any vacation days left (that weren’t already planned) to take a honeymoon. Having the courthouse be closed that Thursday and Friday is going to be a God send. But let me walk you through how we got there in the first place.

TM proposed in October and I delved into trying to secure a church. This was the first step in wedding planning because I wanted to get married in St. Mary’s Cathedral downtown Austin but with Covid there were more restrictions than normal. I had to provide my own priest and we couldn’t secure a date, even put a soft hold on a date, until a priest would sign a document that he would marry us there. After moving to Austin I was no longer a member of my church in Dallas and since I thought I would be moving from my mom’s area soon I never joined a church there. Then covid hit and joining a church just wasn’t possible. So I had to find a church that would let me, a non member, basically borrow a priest to promise to marry TM and I.

Bottom line is this wasn’t going to happen. After TM and I recovered from covid over the holidays I started to get super stressed out about the wedding. I wanted to get married in 2022; I didn’t want to wait until 2023. The Church just wasn’t cooperating with that goal. I finally had throw in the towel and basically swerve in a different direction. I knew by choosing to forgo the church wedding was going to be completely opposite from what I had wanted since I was a little girl and I knew that I had to be okay with that. It came down to wanting to marry TM in 2022 or wait (for an unspecified amount of time) and get married in the Church.

As a Catholic this made me really sad; for so many reasons. TM was so amazing – he kept telling me he would wait as long as we needed to make it right. But I realized that what I wanted the most was to marry him. We are going to have a convalidation ceremony after the wedding at some point and I’m happy and content with my decision.

We picked our venue and basically let that control our date. Again, I was adamant about 2022 and venues were BOOKED. It doesn’t help that the Austin/Dripping Springs area is the wedding capital of the US! We toured Camp Lucy and loved it immediately! They had four dates open: June 11, June 25, Oct 8, and Nov 26. June 11 was TM and my’s anniversary which seemed too good to be true. We were making this decision in February and an early June wedding would mean we had four months to plan the entire wedding. That just wasn’t an option. Same held true for June 25. Oct 8 was already a friend’s wedding so Nov 26 was it! Like I said; it just worked out and I love the space so we thought about it for the weekend and secured it two days after we viewed it.

After the venue and date was set I knew I needed to start making decisions – fast. I interviewed three photographers and we started looking at bands. We decided on a wedding planner, Sarah from Verve Events, and I am THRILLED with Sarah! She is amazing and I’m so excited every time we chat; not to mention I’m pumped that she’s going to be taking some of the stress of wedding planning off my plate. We have our tasting meetings scheduled and the same with our floral design meetings. We just sent out our Save the Dates – I designed them myself on Canva and printed them on Shutterfly. That turned into a headache moment because I wrote the wrong wedding website on them… UGH! We’ve since switched from bands to a DJ. We have asked our wedding party and are about to start getting them started on dresses and tuxes. Getting. Stuff. DONE!

Once of the hardest things is when I hear my mom or Sarah tell me that we don’t need to make a decision yet or even that it’s too early to decide/create something. I can’t wrap my brain around the fact that there is something on my to-do list that I can’t check off yet. It’s giving me an itchy trigger finger, so to speak, because I want to cross it off so bad.

There’s still a solid amount of work to do. We’ve got meetings scheduled but decisions at those meetings have to be made. There’s so much more to share but I don’t want to go overboard on the first update! I promise I’ll share more soon and more regularly! Let me know if you have any questions or if you’re planning a wedding too!